What Gives?

I do not want to come across as a "Male Basher" but I really need to understand what is going on with the stronger sex. As a good friend once said (Hey Bee!), "What the hell is wrong with these men? Don't they know women do not ELECT to go to Crazyville... men like this DRIVE them there!" Now don't get me wrong... there ARE some crazy chicks out there but I am a strong believer that most have become that way because of some past experience(s) that have tainted their views of men. I am not one of these "There are NO GOOD MEN out there" chicks, and most of the women I associate myself with are not either. I do believe that quality people are hard to come by but the quality of people that you allow into your space is really contingent upon the vibes and energy that you put out there. I can go on for days about this but I won't. I'm going to get back to my original concern which is a need to understand WTF is up with the poor decision making of some of these men in the headlines. These are just a few examples of what I say happens to many of my testosterone-toting counterparts. Hard d%$ks make soft minds...


Exhibit A: Steve McNair... Y'all already know how I feel about that situation but I felt that it deserved honorable mention.

Exhibit B: Arturo Gatti - It is not my intent to disrespect my younger sisters out there but dang y'all are treacherous! His wife is being accused of killing this man by strangling him with a purse strap as he drunkenly slept. From what I've heard she got him into his drunken stupor. She made sure he was in a weakened state before she attacked. I suppose she would have to because killing a boxer can't possibly be an easy feat, even for an "amazon" like me, much less for a 23 year old chick who weighs a buck fifteen soaking wet.

IF (and I only say IF because one is innocent until proven guilty) his wife did kill him, I'm gon' tell you where Arturo went wrong. I understand that his relationship with Amanda Rodrigues was tumultuous from the start. She showed her crazy when she wanted him to cut ties with his daughter from a previous relationship. Why on Earth would a man even consider doing that for a woman? What woman IN HER RIGHT MIND would want to force her man to do such a thing?

Now I am fully aware that Gatti had some domestic abuse charges filed against him so I am in no way leaving him blameless. But honestly people, this makes me go back to something that I learned within recent years: Peace should be the initial organizing principle of your life. Before you act, ask yourself how it will impact your peace.This is something that Gatti clearly did not do. It is possible that because of his decision to stay with this woman, instead of living in peace, he is now, prayerfully, resting in it.

Amanda Rodrigues' sister Flavia was quoted as saying: "My sister, like us, is very religious and would be incapable of killing anyone." Ummm, let's not hide behind religion with this. That is not going to wash with a jury of her peers. Seriously, that would be like saying "religious" people do not molest children or commit adultery. Yeah... ok.


Exhibit C: Jon Gosselin (Jon and Kate Plus 8). Without the ink being fully dry on the divorce papers, he is seen traipsing around with a fine young 22 year old thang. There are rumors swirling about him possibly being engaged to her. Rumor has it that she is a "wild girl" so personally, if I were him, I wouldn't eff with her. But I digress. Ok, I admit, my digression in this particular situation is not for long. Ok, seriously? To Miss Hailey... There isn't enough money in the world a man with EIGHT KIDS could possibly have that would make me even HALFWAY interested in dating him, #1 and #2, to Jon... clearly YOU have not heard about what happens to considerably older men when they date anyone born in the late 80's - early 90's. Dummy.


Exhibit D: Tony Romo - Did y'all hear about the Dallas Cowboys quarterback dumping Jessica Simpson on the eve of her 29th birthday and big Ken and Barbie-themed birthday bash? Whoa... Supposedly, Romo was upset that JS still had contact with her ex-BF John Mayer. Now would this be considered some type of insecurity on his part? Perhaps. We all have our own insecurities to deal with. I think the bigger issue is how we choose to keep them at bay. I don't know what their relationship was like but I do recall hearing about Jessica Simpson "wildin' out" in Hollywood after her divorce from Nick Lachey. All I'm saying is, if that is true, Tony Romo knew what and who he was getting into when he decided to be with this chick. Don't act all surprised and hurt now!

I know you Dallas fans are like: "Woo-hoooo! Good Riddance to the Black Widow!", but y'all need to hold your horses. (Yes, I'm partially hating, as I AM a die-hard Giants fan LOL) Dumping a chick the day before her birthday is almost as tantamount as leaving her standing at the altar. Which takes me to the Jerk of the Week...


RICHARD JEFFERSON of The San Antonio Spurs... Despite the fact that I can't stand his ignorant arse for reasons I need not get into, I truly wonder if he is trying to become the next celebrity sports murder victim! The San Antonio Spurs forward was supposed to get married last Saturday, July 11th. He reportedly had cold feet and his former fiancee was also described as "not being totally caught off-guard" by his decision. Ummm, hello, McFly?!?!?! Why is it that some of Jefferson's closest friends didn't even know that he decided to backpedal before jumping the broom? But even worse... wait for it, wait for it, wait for it... HE BROKE IT OFF WITH HER VIA E-MAIL!!! That crap right there is something I'm sure will contribute to his former fiancee's tainted view (assuming it wasn't tainted before this...LOL) of the male gender. Who the hayale WILLINGLY takes a trip to Crazyville? No one I know. Well, Jefferson has reportedly given his ex an undisclosed amount of money since breaking up. Payment to avoid death a la McNair and Gatti? Quite possibly. Only he knows.